I recently had the honor of meeting revolutionary author, Malcolm Gladwell. I'm in the final chapter of his latest book, Outliers: The Story of Success. In chapter 4 (entitled "The Trouble with Geniuses, Part 2"), Gladwell introduces the term "concerted cultivation", which was originally used by sociologist Annette Lareau. Essentially, the difference between those who are successful and those who fail is "concerted cultivation." Those who as a part of their upbringing were taught that they were valued, special individuals with a right to question others, regardless of authority, tend to better understand how to move through society and, as a result, are successful. Gladwell argues that they aren't any smarter and don't work any harder than most others to achieve their success. They possess a positive sense of entitlement that enables them to ask for what they need and reach their goals.
For those who struggle with being shameless, the thought of entitlement is a bad word. It brings to mind selfish, spoiled brats with no boundaries and a ruthless way of living. The concept of concerted cultivation, like shamelessness, focuses on assertion with confidence and sensitivity. If a person has not been taught how to positively interact with the world, their talents go to waste because they lack the ability to understand what is important to others and to communicate it to the people who need to know. Living is a manner that is hindered by shame and defeat is one of the most selfish, spoiled ways of being. If you don't take the time to learn shamelessness to share your gifts, talents and genius, you are doing the entire world a disservice.
If you haven't been privy to concerted cultivation in your childhood, it's time to stop whining and take on the role of both cultivator and recipient. Surround yourself with shameless people, learn from their example, and leverage the lessons you learn to better connect with the people and the world around you. It's only through concerted cultivation -- and shamelessness -- that you will have the confidence you need to not be intimidated and ask for the information and support you need to leverage your genius and be a success.
Raise your hand if you've ever been afraid to, well, raise your hand!
Whether you're a job seeker, business owner, or a member of a large organization, Shameless You! has resources to help take the shame out of your game. We equip you with the tools you need to put your best foot forward and approach your next interview, sales pitch, or presentation with confidence!
Did you know that public speaking tops death as the number one fear by the average person?
If you've ever been mortified at the thought of giving a speech, you probably know what we're talking about. That knot that tightens in your stomach as the rest of you goes numb and breaks into a panicky sweat. The only thing that you can think about is getting out of the speech as fast as possible! Well, sometimes, we cannot flee from presentations. It could cost us our livelihoods and the health of our businesses.
So what can you do to stamp out your fears?
Consider Shameless You! Our own shy-turned-shameless guru, Tracy A. Corley, will equip you with the tools you need to put your best foot forward and brag about yourself or your business without sounding like a walking sales pitch.
Are you ready to learn more about being truly shameless in your every day life? If so, choose your path from the options below. Together, we will align your personal strategy with everyday actions through clear, simple techniques that build confidence and speak integrity.
Shameless Living with Confidence and Integrity for Individuals
Bringing Shamelessness to Your Organization
Shameless Support and Certification for Coaches
Monday, February 09, 2009
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